I’ve walked some bumpy roads myself, hit those low points where you just want to disappear. And let me tell you, the world has a lot of distractions lined up to help you do just that. They’ll whisper sweet little lies like “sex is medicine,” “climax is cleansing,” or that hopping from one casual hookup to the next is somehow “healing” your past wounds or old loves. It sounds spiritual, right? Consensual, therefore sacred. But honey, let’s peel back the pretty wrapping paper and see what’s really going on.
The Uncomfortable Truth
Here’s the raw, undiluted truth that gets ignored way too often: You are absolutely not using sex to heal. What you’re actually doing is using sex to numb yourself. Just hitting the emotional snooze button.
Think about it. Every time that wave of feeling disconnected washes over you, what do you chase? Bodies. When you feel that deep, awful ache of being unwanted, what do you crave? Penetration. When you feel that vast, hollow space inside, that emptiness, you slap a convenient label on it: “horny.” But that’s not the root of it. The real, screaming need underneath is simply to escape the discomfort of feeling like you’re not enough, like you’re fundamentally lacking something vital within yourself.
The Escape Artist in Your Bedroom
It’s not about desiring genuine pleasure, is it? If you’re being honest with your beautiful soul, it’s about wanting to forget yourself entirely. It’s about dissolving into someone else, even just for a little while. It’s about drowning out the deafening silence that comes when you haven’t truly connected with your own spirit, maybe for weeks, months, maybe even longer. You’re looking outside yourself for something only you can cultivate within.
Your Sacral Chakra: More Than a Playground
Let’s talk about your energetic body for a minute, specifically that powerful, beautiful energy center just below your belly button: the sacral chakra. (It’s called Svadhisthana in Sanskrit, meaning “one’s own place” or “dwelling place of the self”). This incredible chakra was never, ever meant to be a leaky faucet or an energetic free-for-all. Its divine design is to be a potent forge, a power center, a dynamic manifestation portal pulsating with creativity, healthy emotions, sensuality, and yes, sacred sexual energy. It’s the seat of your authentic emotional self, your creativity, and your ability to experience pleasure and flow in life.
But when you use sex as a band-aid to cover up deeper wounds and disconnection, you turn this sacred space into something else entirely. You turn it into a landfill. A dumping ground for unclaimed energy, for soul fragments scattered across partners who were never meant to hold pieces of you, for trauma that wasn’t healed but simply got passed back and forth with every orgasm.
The Lingering Aftermath
And this, my love, is why you feel utterly drained and tired after these kinds of sexual encounters. This is why sometimes, tears well up after a climax, leaving you confused and empty. This is why your vibrant spirit dims a little more each time you think you’re “connecting,” but are really just disconnecting further from yourself. Because your sacral chakra isn’t activated in a healthy, life-giving way. It’s compromised. It’s overburdened. It’s what you might even call ‘infected’ by unprocessed energy and unhealed pain.
The real kicker? The longer you participate in this cycle, telling yourself this is somehow “sacred” or “healing,” the deeper you descend into genuine spiritual disconnection. You’ve bought into a lie, and it’s keeping you small and stuck.
The Harsh But Necessary Wake-Up Call
Listen closely: Sex isn’t magically sacred just because the world says so, or because two bodies are involved consensually. Sex is sacred only when you, the radiant being having the experience, are coming from a place of wholeness, awareness, and energetic integrity. And let’s be honest, right now, many people aren’t operating from that space. They’re being driven, possessed even, by unaddressed trauma, by unexamined lust, by unfiltered energetic ‘stuff’ lodged right there in their lower chakras, especially the sacral.
Sex doesn’t actually heal you from these deep-seated issues. It does the opposite; sex reveals where you are in your healing journey. It acts as a mirror. If what’s inside you is unhealed, hurting, or misaligned, then every single orgasm becomes a potential transmission of that trauma. Every stroke becomes less about connection and more like a spell, weaving you further into patterns that don’t serve you. Every partner becomes another complex karmic contract, signed not in ink, but in exchanged fluids and entangled energy.
This isn’t some woo-woo secret kept by tantra coaches. This is fundamental energetic truth. Until your sacral chakra is healed, cleared, and sealed – anchored in your sovereign energy – nothing you attract on a deep, truly fulfilling level can be purely divine. Not the lover who stays and cherishes you, not the pleasure that genuinely lights you up from the inside, not the union that elevates both souls, and absolutely not the abundance that flows when your creative life force is finally unblocked. A blocked or imbalanced sacral chakra shows up as emotional instability, creative blocks, low libido, and relationship issues.
You Deserve More
You are powerful. You are divine. And you deserve SO much more than fragmented, draining energetic exchanges.
YOU DESERVE SEX THAT BUILDS you up, that ignites your life force, not breaks you down. YOU DESERVE ORGASMS THAT OPEN HEAVEN, expanding your consciousness and connection, not pulling you into the lower vibrations of your wounds. YOU DESERVE A SACRAL CHAKRA THAT ACTIVELY MANIFESTS MIRACLES in your life, attracting abundance, joy, and truly aligned relationships, not replaying the tired memories of your past hurts.
It all starts with you. With choosing to see the truth, even when it’s uncomfortable, and choosing to do the deep, beautiful work of healing yourself first.
ALL GLORY BE TO THE MOST HIGH. SMILE AND GIVE THANKS. 👁𓂀ॐ
Conclusion
We’ve walked through some heavy but essential truths today. Understanding the difference between numbing and true healing, especially in our most intimate spaces, is paramount to living a life of empowered abundance. Your sacral chakra is waiting to be the radiant, powerful core it was meant to be.
Are you ready to stop the cycle of numbing and step into your authentic power? Are you ready to do the transformative work that allows your sacral chakra to manifest miracles instead of repeating wounds? I invite the reader to transform their life with my 1 on 1 lifestyle transformation consulting. Step into your next life at: https://angelandspirit.com/consultations
