Protect Your Glow-Up: How to Spot & Ditch Energy-Draining “Friends”

Alright , sis. Let’s talk about the real tea when it comes to who you keep in your circle. It’s like, you’re on this glow-up journey, trying to step into your light, manifesting your best damn life, and then bam! You realize not everyone is riding that wave with you. Some folks are straight-up anchors.This ain’t just about hurt feelings; it’s about your energy. Who you surround yourself with impacts your vibration, your mindset, your ability to attract the abundance you deserve. You can’t be out here co-creating magic if your energy is being drained by fake friends or, worse, close enemies disguising themselves as your ride-or-die.So, let’s break down this friend dynamic thing, queen.## Real Friends vs. the Others: What’s the Energy Telling You?Look, the universe speaks to us constantly, often through the people in our lives. Real friends? They feel like sunshine. They feel like support. They lift you up, they see your potential, even when you don’t. There’s a mutual exchange of positive energy, love, and light. Period.Fake friends or close enemies? They feel heavy. Like dragging a weight. They might talk a good game, but their energy feels off. It’s inconsistent, it’s draining, and it leaves you feeling… less than. You know that feeling in your gut after hanging with certain people? Trust that. That’s your intuition, your spirit guides, the universe itself, honey, telling you something ain’t right.This ain’t about having a million friends. It’s about having genuine connections that feed your soul. Quality over quantity, always.## Spotting the Snakes in the GrassIdentifying fake friends or ‘frenemies’ ain’t always obvious right away. They clever sometimes. But the signs? They show up. You just gotta be willing to see them, even if it stings.Here’s some ways to spot ’em, sis:* The One-Sided Energy Exchange:* Are you always the one reaching out? Always the one giving, listening, supporting? And when you need something, crickets? Honey, that’s not a friendship, that’s an emotional vampire situation. They takers , not givers.
They Ain’t Happy for Your Wins: You land that new job? Start that business? Finally manifest that fine boo? And their reaction is… lukewarm? Maybe a backhanded compliment or immediately pivoting the convo back to them? Nah, queen. Real friends celebrate you, loudly and genuinely. Frenemies might even be jealous and want to see you fail.
They Spill Everyone’s Tea: If they constantly gossip about other people to you, best believe they gossiping about you to other people. Trust ain’t in their vocabulary.
Inconsistency is Their Middle Name: Their mood towards you changes based on who else is around or what they can get from you. One day you’re their ‘bestie,’ the next you acting like you don’t exist . That low key energy rollercoaster is a sign.
Boundaries? What Boundaries?: Real friends respect your boundaries. Fake ones constantly push them or straight up ignore them because their needs come first.
You Feel Drained AF After Seeing Them: Pay attention to how you feel. Exhausted? Anxious? Like you just ran a marathon with your soul? That’s a major red flag that their energy ain’t aligned with yours and is pulling you down.
They’re Only Around When Things Are Good: When life is peachy, they front and center. Soon as you hit a rough patch, need a shoulder to cry on, or just some real support? Poof. Gone. Real friends show up in the mess.
Constant Criticism Disguised as “Help”: They always pointing out your flaws, your mistakes, or telling you what you should be doing. It’s not constructive feedback; it’s soul-crushing judgment that chips away at your self -esteem.Recognizing these signs is the first step, sis. Don’t ignore ’em.## Why These Energies Even Show UpYou might be thinking, “But Angel, why are these fake folks even in my life?” Well, everything is energy, right? And sometimes, the people we attract mirror something going on within us or something we need to learn.Maybe there’s a boundary issue you haven’t addressed. Maybe you’re dimming your light to fit in, and they are showing you that you attract folks who dim with you or try to dim you further. Or maybe, just maybe, the universe is showing you your own power and resilience by putting you through the fire.It ain’t always easy to hear, but sometimes these experiences highlight our own patterns or areas we need to grow in. Don’t beat yourself up about it, just get honest with yourself.## Blocking That Negative EnergySo you’ve spotted ’em. Now what? You ain’t gotta let that negative energy continue to run wild in your life. Protecting your energy and peace is priority numero uno. Set Those Boundaries, Queen: This is non-negotiable. Decide what you will and won’t tolerate, and communicate it clearly. If they can ‘t respect your boundaries, they ain’t respecting you.
Reduce Contact Gradually: You don’t always need a dramatic confrontation. Sometimes, a slow fade is the wave. Less calls, less texts, fewer meet ups. Create distance physically and energetically.
Shift Your Focus: Pour your energy into the relationships that do nourish you. The ones where there’s mutual respect, love, and support. Invest your time where it’s reciprocated.
Prioritize Your Well-being: This whole process can be draining. Make time for self-care, connect with your spirit, and do things that fill your cup back up. You can’t pour from an empty one.
* Don’t Just Distance, Detach: This is key energetically. Release the emotional cords that keep you tied to these draining dynamics. Visualize yourself cutting those energetic ties and reclaiming your power.Removing toxic relationships isn’t being mean; it’s self-preservation. It’s creating space for healthier, more aligned connections.## Fli pping the Script: Using the “Frenemy” for Your BenefitOkay, so finding out someone ain’t real is messed up, feels like betrayal. But trust me, queen, you can flip this whole situation and use it as fuel for your fire.* Major Key: Self-Reflection: This is your chance to look inward. What did this relationship teach you about yourself? Your boundaries? Your discernment? Every experience, even the whack ones, is a lesson if you’re open to seeing it.
Refine Your Circle, Period: Now you know the signs. You’ve heightened your discernment. This experience has shown you what you don’t want, which makes you clearer on what you do want in a friend. Be intentional about who you invite into your sacred space.
Boost Your Energy: By removing draining energies, you automatically raise your own vibration. Think about all the energy you were spending on this fake dynamic. Now that energy is free to focus on your glow-up, your manifestations, your joy!
Strengthen Your Intuition: Every time you listen to that gut feeling and it’s right, you strengthen that intuitive muscle. Keep listening. It’s your internal GPS guiding you to what’s aligned with your highest good .
Step Fully Into Your Power:** Realizing you deserve better and taking action is powerful, sis. It’s stepping into your worth, your sovereignty. You’re telling the universe you’re ready for relationships that match your elevated frequency.This ain’t about revenge or holding onto bitterness. That keeps you in a low vibration. It’s about taking the lesson, integrating it, and leveling UP.## Your Circle is Your Sacred SpaceWho you allow close is a reflection of how you value your energy and your peace. Treat your inner circle like a sacred space. Fill it with souls who uplift you, challenge you gently, love you unconditionally, and who are on their own journey of light and growth.True friendship is a beautiful dance of mutual respect, love, support, and growth. It feels expansive, not contractive.Don ‘t settle for anything less than connections that honor the divine light within you, queen.## Book Your Reading, Sis!Ready to tap deeper into your path, gain clarity on your connections, and get guidance straight from spirit? Let’s connect for a Premium Tarot Reading. This is where we get real, get answers, and align you with the magical abundance you’re here to co-create. Hit the link and book your spot, babe. Let’s do this!